Touching Story: Ebola Survivor Opens Up On Losing His Fiancee And Being Jobless

For the fiancé of late Ebola-infected nurse, Justina Ejelonu, being cured of the disease has given him a new lease of life, but not without consequences.

Dennis Akagha was infected by Justina but was given a clean bill of health after being quarantined.

However, he lost his job, his fiancée and their unborn child to the dreaded disease.

The survivor spoke to Punch during an interview on life after Ebola. Excerpts below:

You’ve been certified to be Ebola Virus negative, for how long has that been?

It’s going to two weeks now. Saturday (today) will make it two weeks exactly that I’ve been certified negative. I’ve not had any of the symptoms since then. But I’m granting this interview basically for one reason; before I was quarantined, I saw it in the Bible that I would not die but live to testify the goodness of God upon my life. When God saved me, it is my responsibility to tell the whole world and Nigerians that God is still in the business of doing miracles. So I’m a living testimony of the goodness of God.

So what do you really think saved you? Did the doctors give you any drugs?

I will always tell the whole world that it’s a miracle because I met people who were at the isolation centre before me and I left the place before them. I stayed there for five days. It was a miracle. What worked for me was my faith and my belief because right from the day I saw the symptoms, I had been talking to myself.

You were there for five days, what was your experience like within that period?

I was taken in on Tuesday, August 19, 2014 and left there on Saturday night, August 23, 2014. The experience wasn’t funny, anyway. I really want to appreciate Lagos State. The state has done the best out of all the places where Ebola has been ravaging lives. Initially, there were no volunteers and the facilities were not there but it was because the virus came unexpectedly. Nobody expected it. But within a short time, the facilities improved, so the state tried.

When I was confirmed to have it, they took me to the ‘confirmed’ ward. I went in with them and I met others there. Immediately I lay down on my bed, I cried but nobody knew I was shedding tears. I just lay there and cried. I was crying to God because I already told him that I would not die but live.

One of the doctors came in to tell me that my results were not clear to them. In other words, I wasn’t meant to be there. So they took me back to the ‘suspects’ ward and said they would rerun the tests. That was on Wednesday.

They reran the tests and the results came out on Thursday afternoon. It was positive. So they asked me to go back to the ‘confirmed’ ward. I told them I was not sick.

They said that I was positive but I insisted that I didn’t have Ebola. We quarreled for some time so it took me time to go back to the ‘confirmed’ ward.

It was after much pleading and also because they said I was a risk to others in the ‘suspects’ ward. So I went back to the ‘confirmed’ ward but I was still saying I was not sick.

Then on Saturday night, they called me that I had been discharged. I had even forgotten that my blood samples were taken for a test. They said my results came out negative. In that case, I didn’t have any business there anymore.

How have your friends, relatives and neighbours been relating with you since you returned from the isolation centre?

The stigma will always be there and it will take some time for it to phase out. It happened when HIV and Lassa fever came out. So this is not the first and it won’t be the last. But I know that with time, it will phase out. I faced a lot of stigmatisation on my street.

Can you recall specific instances?

Yes. When I was symptomatic, because I had bushy hair, I went to a salon to have a haircut. Somebody who knew what happened to my fiancée ran away from the salon. Also, I went somewhere to buy toothpaste and the mallam (Hausa man) refused to sell to me. He said he was not selling. I said but you have toothpaste, he said yes, but that he was not selling. And where I worked as a marketing officer, it happened. I got a job this same month Justina got a job at the hospital (where Patrick Sawyer visited). Mine was an oil and gas company. Indirectly, I experienced it there. I no longer work there.

Were you told to stop coming?

They did it indirectly. It will be shameful for me to go back there. After I left the isolation centre, I said no, I won’t go back there. God has a reason for everything. A lot of people have told me to protest but I said no. For God to bring me out of this, He has very big plans for my life.

The communication was no longer there; I was calling (the office) and they stopped picking my calls. So I didn’t bother to go to the office. It got to an extent that even after I came out, my mum travelled to the east (my hometown) for an August meeting and as soon as she got to the venue, everyone ran away. They were like, since your son had Ebola, then you will definitely have Ebola. That was the extent of the stigmatization.

What was the quarantine centre where Justina was kept like when you got there?

As I said, Lagos State government didn’t expect it. So the environment wasn’t that conducive. The place she was, was a different facility from where I was. It was the same hospital environment but not the same facility. Justina and others were put there while government was preparing a better place for them.

She was already there before some others were moved to the other facility. There was no water or oxygen where she was, and the environment wasn’t okay. Lagos State government tried and did its best to make sure that they improve the facilities later and I can testify to that.

Do you think that the government could have saved her life if the facilities were better?

Well, I really don’t know. God knows best. I was discussing with someone recently and I said she shouldn’t have died.

So what are your plans now that you’re fine, but out of job?

I intend to look for another job. If it’s the will of God for me to work, I will get another job. Aside from that, I made Justina a promise. I spoke with her the night she passed on but I had to go there to confirm the next morning. I had to go inside there after wearing the kits.

 I was led in and I held her hands, I just wanted to know if she was truly dead. At that time, she was already dead. I told her that I would make sure I pursued those things she could not achieve that I knew about, in my own little way and with the help of individuals. I would make sure she fulfills the dreams.

Before her death, she had a vision of a project that I don’t want to share here. If that is what will keep me busy for the rest of my life, I don’t mind to keep her memory alive. I wrote the plan and we were just waiting to complete our marriage plans before proceeding with the project.

You said you held her hand after she had died. But can you recall the last time you saw her alive and what she said to you?

The last day I saw her alive was three weeks today because she died on a Thursday morning. She requested to see me and I went inside to see her, cleaned her and made sure her surroundings were clean and okay.

She was on drips and I spoke with her. She requested for tea, hot or cold. There was no way I could get hot water around so I went to get beverage and two bottles of table water to prepare the tea (beverage) for her.

I also bought bread for her. That was the last thing I bought for her. I remember she said she loved me; that was the last thing she told me. After cleaning her up, she called on one of the doctors, a WHO doctor, Dr. David.

She said softly to the doctor, did I not tell you? The doctor asked what. She said did I not tell you that if my husband comes here, a miracle would happen. I laughed and the doctor said yes. I had to clean her up that day.

You took some risks taking Justina to the hospital and cleaning her up, didn’t you know the risks involved?

You see, if you love someone, you will do those things, except you don’t genuinely love the person. If you genuinely love someone, you can do anything for the person. I genuinely loved her; she was supposed to be my wife.

 And at that point in time, I saw no reason why I should abandon her. I know most men would do that but my conscience would judge me for the rest of my life if I had run away. So I had to stand by her. I took the risks because I loved her and at a point, I started being careful at the same time.

Not that I didn’t think of the risks, but love is a very powerful thing. I know she would have done the same thing for me. So why would I want to run away?

How did you receive news of her death?

Normally, I call her every morning but that morning , I called and called and she didn’t pick up. So I went to the hospital and I was supposed to get some things for her anyway. So I got the news when I got there. It was painful for me. Have you lost a loved one before? At that moment, I felt like going with her. I felt that I couldn’t stay behind (on earth). I felt like dying so that it would be like we both died, although it was not possible (for me to kill myself). But that was how I felt.

Chinan Temple – Daxiong Shrine

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The largest and youngest of the three shrines that make up the Chinan Temple complex, the Daxiong Shrine is oddly incomplete. It was also deserted when we were here, and the whole experience was pretty surreal. While the shrine definitely looked grand, something just felt missing.

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“Make glorious, amazing mistakes.”

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In Neil Gaiman’s now famous 2012 commencement speech at the University of the Arts, he offers some excellent advice to free us from perfectionism, imploring us to simply create — to make art — no matter what. What’s wonderful about this advice is that it applies to any creative endeavour, regardless of whether your art form is writing, drawing, painting, sculpting, or découpage:

I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes.

Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re Doing Something.

So that’s my wish for you, and all of us, and my wish for myself. Make New Mistakes. Make glorious, amazing mistakes. Make mistakes nobody’s ever made before. Don’t freeze, don’t stop, don’t worry that it isn’t good…

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Joan Rivers and Holocaust Humor

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During the week of Robin Williams death, I wrote a piece on his role in Jakob the Liar. As I pointed out, Williams didn’t shy away from the challenge of bringing humor to the Holocaust. To this end, he decided to take on the role of the schlemiel, Jakob, who did his utmost to distance the Lodz ghetto from its impending doom.   He and Roberto Bengnini – who wrote and played the main role in Life is Beautiful – turned to the schlemiel and both were duly criticized for this since, “after Auschwitz,” Theodor Adorno and several Holocaust scholars who follow in his wake argue that humor, much like poetry, might be thought to be unethical when it comes to representing the Holocaust.   However, what makes the schlemiel interesting is, as Sidrah Ezrahi suggests, that its brand of comedy “revolts” against the world so as to preserve hope.  …

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Maheeda Models Nude For Ruggedman

It seems that despite criticisms from all around, Maheeda is just not slowing down.

The nakedness expert and self-acclaimed gospel singer has added the role of model to her resumé.

Maheeda is seen here rocking one of Ruggedman’s 8Figures varsity jackets from his soon-to-be unveiled TSW (Twentieth Sept Wear) collection.

Does she make a great model?

WOW: Check Out The World’s Craziest Outfit

This woman was spotted at an event in this!

The unidentified mama perhabs was trying too hard to get into E! Fashion Police list of best dressed celebrity but may have tried way too damn hard!

We still have no idea who she’s wearing or who or what made her wear this, but she probably thought it was the best dress ever!

Mama wore bubbles or… let’s say …. smashed bubbles all over her and then added pupple high-wasted belt, pointed heels and had a deep blue bandana on!

Should we also talk about her make up and her thick gloves?

But wait, what was she thinking???  Do you know?

Nasarawa Pilgrims to travel with Ebola experts

Secretary of the Nasarawa State Pilgrims Welfare Board, Clement Odey, on Wednesday said intending pilgrims for the 2014 Christian pilgrimage will travel with Ebola virus experts to respond rapidly in case of any unforeseen circumstances.

Odey stated this in an interview with our correspondent in Lafia, the Nasarawa state capital.

He said the Ebola virus specialists would accompany the pilgrims for the pilgrimage though a preliminarily screening exercise would be conducted in the country before their trip.

He said, “Somebody may be looking very healthy and by the screening result, the virus may not have manifested yet, but in the process of travelling, things can change because we are coming from different states and even different countries to meet together.

“So the best approach is to travel with Ebola virus experts who will be on the ground wherever we are.

“Ebola is a serious matter and we are not professionals. That is why we are taking with us experts who will do thorough screening during the entire exercise which will be started here. The experts will quickly act in case of any incident so that we are not stranded there.”

He explained that the experts will also while monitoring pilgrims, be reminding them of preventive measures.

He urged the Christian pilgrims’ boards of other states in the country to take a cue from Nasarawa State so as to ensure a smooth and stress-free pilgrimage.

Odey also revealed that the board will be having a retreat in Abuja on September 3 and will also be travelling to Israel, Rome and Greece on September 6 for ‘Evaluation of State of Readiness’ visit so as to assess the state of facilities to be used by pilgrims in the various countries.

He, however, maintained that the family pilgrimage exercise for 2014 was abandoned due to series of challenges and the recent political unrest in the state.

I’m tired of being labelled a gay – IK Ogbonna

Beautiful-faced actor, IK Ogbonna, speaks on his career and challenges in this interview with JAYNE AUGOYE

In recent years, the effect of the dip in Nollywood’s fortunes on some practitioners, especially the pioneers, has become a subject of debate and concern for stakeholders. Determined to keep body and soul together, many pioneer core actors have decided to delve into other trades.

This situation has given way to the emergence of a crop of young, fresh-faced actors, many of who are models. While this may be hailed as a welcome development by some fans, keen observers are of the opinion that looks may be traded in place of talents.

But the trend, according to fast-rising actor, Ik Ogbonna, is a welcome one.

“People are naturally drawn to watching attractive actors on TV and most producers capitalise on this fact. Sometimes producers cast based on good looks before looking for the talents embedded in the individual. Although some of us are blessed with good faces, the talent isn’t really there. But we try to improve on our acting over time.

“I hear people say I can’t act but I don’t think I would be cast in movies if I had nothing to offer the filmmaker. Don’t forget that the producer is a businessman who has to sell his products. Nigerians are so quick to judge people and antagonise and criticise at the same time,” he notes.

Since he embraced the limelight in 2005, as a contestant on the now-rested Amstel Malta Box Office reality TV show, the Sociology and Anthropology graduate of the University of Jos has been experiencing a steady rise. The actor who complements his good looks with a distinct dress sense blows hot, while lamenting what he describes as baseless rumours being peddled about him with regards to his sexuality.

“I am tired of the gay rumours trailing me. You can never pick out any man with whom I have had an affair in the past, but you can link me to some of the ladies I have dated. It is funny because I am sometimes called a ladies’ man and at times rumoured to be a gigolo – gay. These three things do not relate to one another. “That I have chosen to adopt the UK style of dressing, which typically comprises tight pants, should not make me gay. The fact that I have friends in the industry that I choose to hang out with should not make me a gay. I really don’t care about what people think of my personal life. I can’t spot anyone as being gay in the industry and I don’t see anything wrong with two guys or ladies being close friends. Until I am approached by a guy or I see guys getting down together then I can conclude that he is gay.”

Over the last few months, there have been reports that the Honey Moon Hotel actor was romantically involved with Ghanaian actress, Juliet Ibrahim. The speculations were further heightened in June, after he was alleged to have posted a video on YouTube, which revealed scenes of their intimate moments.

But barely two months down the line, he appears to have moved on, having found love in the arms of his Columbian girlfriend, Sonia Moralez, who he has been flaunting on social media.

Confirming his status, Ogbonna, who has a daughter, says, “A lot of celebrities do not want anyone to know they are in a relationship for several reasons or out of fear. I don’t put out pictures for anyone to draw conclusions or create any form of illusion. As far as you are human, you must feel love at some point in time. I might be seeing someone and she is Columbian.

“A lot of people say that I will lose fans because I posted a picture of another lady on my Instagram account. I don’t have any reason to hide my affair. It is a good thing and even God in heaven smiles at it. I will try to flaunt it as much as I can. But right now, I am not ready for marriage.”

PDP Governors Plot Against Ribadu

Some governors elected on the platform of the Peoples Democratic Party have begun moves to stop a former Chairman of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, Mallam Nuhu Ribadu, from emerging as the party’s governorship candidate in Adamawa State.

The governors, who were part of a meeting in the Akwa Ibom State Governor’s Lodge   in Abuja on Monday night, believed that it would be dangerous to allow Ribadu to get near the Presidency and the PDP.

The former EFCC chairman defected   from the All Progressives Congress to the ruling party on August 16 and a few days after, he   picked the PDP nomination form for Adamawa State governorship election scheduled for October 12.

He thereafter applied for a waiver     to enable him take part in the primaries which will hold on September 6.

It was also gathered that the governors used the opportunity of their meeting to discuss others issues, including   President Goodluck Jonathan’s chances in 2015.

One of the governors, who was at the meeting but asked not to be named, told two journalists, including our correspondent, that some of them also agreed that it   would be dangerous for the PDP to field Ribadu as the party’s governorship candidate for the   Adamawa State election .

He said they   were also not sure if Ribadu, who was the defunct Action Congress of Nigeria presidential candidate in 2011, was not being planted in the ruling party with the aim of spying on the Federal Government.

‘‘He can be uncontrollable and can explode anytime,” the governor   said, adding that some of his colleagues were of the opinion that it was wrong for Jonathan’s Principal Secretary, Alhaji Hassan Tukur, to impose Ribadu on the   party and the people of the state.

Tukur and a woman minister in charge of one of the key ministries are believed to be instrumental in the former EFCC chairman’s decision to dump the APC for the PDP.

The PDP governors were said to have insisted that if Tukur was passionate about Adamawa State, he could as well obtain a nomination form to contest the position either now or in 2015.

Our source vowed   on Monday that he and some of his colleagues had resolved not to support Ribadu for the position.

He said they believed that it would be difficult for Ribadu to be allowed to come closer to the seat of power because of his antecedents.

Asked if it would be better for him to be given a ministerial position since he has joined the ruling party, the governor answered in the negative.

He said, “It is not ideal for the man (Ribadu) to come close to us at all. We still don’t know why Hassan Tukur is insisting on the man.

“We can’t trust him for anything. Look at the auditing job given to him concerning the Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation? Do you know the problem that report caused this government?

“Before Ribadu submitted the report, he had leaked it to all the embassies in the country. Will it therefore not be wrong to have such a man close to the government he had denounced and condemned in the past?”

He said the position of the governors was capable of affecting the waiver that Ribadu was seeking from the leadership of the PDP to enable him to take part in the   governorship primaries in his state.

Under the constitution of the party, new members and returnees are not qualified to seek elective positions until after two years ─ except they get a waiver.

Section 50 (9) of the PDP constitution says, “There shall be a minimum of two year membership span for a member to be eligible to stand for election into any public office, unless the appropriate executive committee gives a waiver or rules to the contrary.”

Our correspondent gathered that the members of the National Working Committee of the PDP were sharply divided on whether to grant him waiver or not.

While some NWC members were said to have favoured that he (Ribadu), Buba Marwa and Marcus Gundiri be granted   waivers, others were said to have rejected the move.

But the PDP said it had not foreclosed the issue of waiver for Ribadu and others.

The members of the NWC are expected to meet in Abuja on Wednesday (today) and there were speculations that the matter would come up.

The National Publicity Secretary of the party, Chief Olisa Metuh, who spoke with our correspondent on   Tuesday, said , “The issue of waiver is not a problem.

“We the members of the NWC are meeting tomorrow (Wednesday) and if the matter comes up as part of the agenda, we will discuss it.

“Waiver is not a problem at all. So, wait until after the meeting on Wednesday. Like I said, if it comes up, we will discuss it.”

However, a source close to the former EFCC chairman said he might use his contacts among some of the governors to reach out to others.

He said Ribadu was a close friend of at least three of the PDP governors

He listed the governors as Ibrahim Shema(Katsina), Seriake   Dickson (Bayelsa) and Godswill Akpabio (Akwa Ibom). Ironically, Akpabio is the Chairman of the PDP Governors’ Forum.

“These are his friends among the PDP governors and they will definitely try to speak for him,” the source added.

Meanwhile, a leader of the All Progressives Congress, Chief Bola Tinubu, has said he does not bear any grudge against Ribadu for defecting to PDP.

He twitted, “Ribadu remains a friend and brother. He is mature. He remains one who believes in liberty, justice and service. I wish him luck with GOODLUCK.’’